160 Good Questions to Ask your Boyfriend or Girlfriend


Starting a conversation can be one of the hardest things in the world. Once you’ve covered the weather, new movies, and current events, it can be nearly impossible to find something entertaining, intriguing, or heartfelt to talk about with that special someone. To help you facilitate that all-important conversation, we’ve gathered together some of the best questions to ask your boyfriend, as well as some questions to ask your girlfriend.

These questions are the perfect way to spark a conversation, whether you’re looking for something cute, funny and uplifting, or something deep, intellectual and romantic. While most of these questions will be unisex, there are going to be a few questions that are gender specific so if you’re looking for some good questions to ask a guy or good questions to ask a girl, then you’ve come to the right place.

The questions are all numbered and broken into groups based on the type of question to make it easier for you to keep track of the things you want to ask that special someone in your life.

160 Good Questions to Ask your Boyfriend or Girlfriend

20 Cute Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

20 Cute Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. Who is your favorite celebrity? Maybe you share a favorite, or maybe his favorite celebrity stars in your favorite movie. It can be a great bonding moment!
  2. Which celebrity do you hate the most? Another opportunity for bonding, especially if you hate the same celebrity!
  3. What is the most expensive thing you’ve ever bought for yourself? Be careful with this one because it can make you sound like a bit of a gold digger, but on the other hand it can give you a good idea of the type of gifts to get that special someone.
  4. Would you ever want to go to another planet? Find out how adventurous your girlfriend or boyfriend really is!
  5. What super power would you want to have, if you could only choose one? This is a tricky one, because there are so many options. You might want to limit your choices to DC or Marvel super heroes or something like that.
  6. What Fictional world would you like to live in? This can be a super fun question, and a great way to discover the kinds of books, movies, and TV shows that your special someone likes.
  7. If you were stranded on a desert island, what three things would you take with you?This is just a fun question which may lead to discussions on the best type of sandwich to take with you to a deserted island.
  8. Do you believe in ghosts? This is a lighthearted and fun question that could lead to some really deep discussions as well. Tread carefully.
  9. What’s your dream job? This question is a great way to find out what they want to do for the rest of their lives.
  10. What is your dream vacation spot? A vacation spot says a lot about a person.
  11. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done? Find out if bungee jumping or skydiving is upcoming date ideas….
  12. What’s your dream car? Are they practical or extravagant?
  13. What’s your favorite movie? Find out, and then plan a movie night. This is especially great if you haven’t seen their favorite or vise versa.
  14. Have you ever had a crush on a teacher? Self-explanatory.
  15. If you could turn into an animal, what animal would you choose? This can spark some interesting conversations.
  16. If money were no object, where would you want to live? New York? The Moon? Mars? Where a person would like to spend their life says a lot about them.
  17. What was your favorite cartoon growing up? Have a marathon on a Saturday morning!
  18. Have you ever thought about tattoos? Some people love them, some people hate them. Find out where your significant other stands.
  19. What was your favorite subject in school? Safe, easy question that can open a lot of doors.
  20. What was your most embarrassing moment? This can be a great way to break the ice!

20 Intimate Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Intimate Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. Have you ever been in love before me? Be careful, this can open up a lot of painful doors, but it can also be a great way to really get to know your partner.
  2. What is your greatest fantasy? Be prepared and don’t get freaked out if it’s something you’re not into.
  3. What first attracted you to me? This can be a great way to start a very intimate conversation.
  4. If I could grant you three wishes, what would they be? If they’re reasonable, keep them in mind and see what you can do to make them happen later.
  5. Where do you see us in 5 years? Change the amount of time if you’ve been together longer. It can be a great way to plan for the future as well.
  6. When did you know you were in love with me? Enjoy the heartfelt answers from this one, but be prepared to reciprocate.
  7. How important is marriage to you? For some people, it’s just a piece of paper, for others it’s a sacred vow. Find out how your partner feels about it.
  8. When did you lose your virginity? This is a very intimate question, but it can also be a funny one. Exchange stories about your awkward first times.
  9. How important are children to you? Again, this can be an important question to help you plan your future.
  10. How often do you think we should be having sex, in an ideal world? A person’s actual physical relationship and his or her ideal one can often be two drastically different things.
  11. What makes you unhappy? This is more about mental intimacy than physical.
  12. Do you have any big regrets? It is rare that you find someone who has no regrets, and talking about them can be a great way to learn more about a person.
  13. What is love, to you? Love means different things to different people.
  14. How do you react to conflict? Do they instantly attack or do they draw back and assess the situation before reacting?
  15. Do you have nightmares often? Nightmares can be a sign of a troubled mind. Maybe there is something there that you can help with.
  16. Is there anything you want to change about yourself? This can be a physical change or a mental one.
  17. Is there anything you want to know about me, but didn’t want to ask? This is a great way to start a conversation.
  18. What is your greatest accomplishment so far? Self-explanatory.
  19. What would you like your greatest accomplishment to be? Getting people to talk about their dreams and passions is a great way to start a conversation.
  20. What do you believe in? This doesn’t necessarily have to be religion; it could be a deep rooted belief in just about anything.

20 Romantic Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Romantic Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. Describe your dream date. Take notes and do what you can to make it happen in the future.
  2. What is your idea of a perfect honeymoon spot? Even if there are no wedding bells on the horizon, it can be fun to just plan an all expense paid trip.
  3. What do you think about public displays of affection? Not everyone feels comfortable with smooching in public, so it’s best to get those feelings out in the open early.
  4. Who do you think is more romantic, men or women? This can turn into a fun debate, or a series of attempts to out-romance each other.
  5. Do you think you’re romantic? Ask for examples!
  6. Would you move to be closer to a partner? This is a great question for people in long-distance relationships as well!
  7. Tell me the best romance advice you’ve ever gotten. Even if your relationship doesn’t work out, it can be great to collect advice for later use!
  8. Should your partner also be your best friend? This is a touchy subject for some people, but a great way to learn how your partner thinks nonetheless.
  9. Do you believe in love at first sight? Some people do, some people don’t, but it’s a great conversation starter!
  10. What do you think of Valentine’s Day? Corny Hallmark holiday or just another excuse to be romantic?
  11. Describe your perfect partner. This isn’t an invitation to change for your partner, but a good way to tell whether or not he/she is going to tell you the truth.
  12. What was your first impression of me? (Read question 13)
  13. How accurate was that impression? Not only do you find out how they saw you, but this question can give you a good idea of how other people see you as well.
  14. Try to read my mind, what am I thinking right now? Enjoy watching your partner try to puzzle you what you’re thinking.
  15. What should go on our joint bucket list? Find out the sort of things that he or she wants to do before they die.
  16. Describe your perfect day. Here’s another question where you should take notes and do what you can do make that perfect day happen.
  17. Tell me a secret you’ve never told anyone. This can spark some interesting conversations.
  18. What did you want to be as a kid? This can give you a great idea of who your partner was and how it helped them grow into the person they are today.
  19. How has our relationship changed over the years? This is a great way to reflect on everything you’ve gone through together.
  20. What is your biggest fear? This one is kind of self-explanatory.

20 Dirty Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Dirty Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. Have you ever gone skinny dipping? This can be a great way to learn really awkward and funny stories about your partner.
  2. What do you wear to sleep? Do they prefer pajamas or going commando?
  3. What is your idea of foreplay? Foreplay is super important to a good sexual relationship, so knowing what your partner thinks is ideal is a great way to blow their minds in the bedroom.
  4. Have you ever sexted? Not only is this a great way to broach the subject, anyone who has is bound to have a few embarrassing anecdotes.
  5. Have you ever had a one night stand? Do they prefer commitment or are they more of a sexual butterfly?
  6. Lights on or off? Do they prefer to look at you, or explore in the dark?
  7. Tell me about your first time. It might be romantic and sexy, but on the other hand it might be totally awkward and embarrassing. Either way, it’s a great conversation starter.
  8. Who’s your favorite porn star? If they don’t have a favorite, maybe show them something from your collection?
  9. Do you like to talk dirty? This can be a great way to ramp things up in the bedroom.
  10. Are you quiet, or do you like to make a lot of noise? Self-explanatory.
  11. Have you ever had sex in a public place? This can be a great way to get ideas as well as hear some sexy stories.
  12. Where is the strangest place you’ve ever had sex? At the beach? In the broom closet? T he possibilities are endless.
  13. What do you think of strip clubs? Clubs can be fun together or separately, but it’s a good idea to learn what your partner thinks of them.
  14. Have you ever hired an escort or prostitute? (Yes, this can apply to both men and women.) While not necessarily a bad thing, it is a good idea to know if your partner has employed a professional sex worker.
  15. What is your biggest turn on? Find a way to incorporate that into your foreplay.
  16. What is your favorite position? Who knows, maybe you’ll find a new favorite too!
  17. Have you ever had phone sex? Phone sex can be a great precursor to a sexy evening.
  18. Have you ever been in a threesome? These require super-confident partners who are not prone to jealousy.
  19. What type of underwear do you prefer to wear?
  20. What type of underwear do you prefer your partner to wear? These two are fairly self explanatory, but can lead to some really fun holiday gifts!

20 Sweet Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Sweet Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. Do you like breakfast in bed? Not everyone likes the idea of eating where they sleep, but the gesture is sweet.
  2. Do you like to dance? This can be a great idea for a date if one or both of you enjoys dancing.
  3. What song would you want to dance to at your (our) wedding? Even if a wedding isn’t in the plans right now, it can still be a sweet conversation.
  4. What is your favorite restaurant for a date? Not only is this a good way to get ideas, but it gives you an idea of the kind of meals you can make for your partner at home as well.
  5. What is your favorite drink? Not necessarily alcoholic drinks either, just find out what type of drinks they enjoy in general.
  6. Are you good at keeping secrets? This can be a great conversation starter.
  7. Are you a neat or a messy person? Fun conversation starter, as well as a way to learn what type of house your partner would keep.
  8. Who is your favorite author? Talking about books is a fantastic way to pass the time, plus a new book by a favorite author is always a perfect gift.
  9. Do you like to travel? Are they adventurous or more of a home-body? This question is a great way to find out.
  10. Have you ever been set up on a blind date? This question is usually loaded with funny and awkward stories that are great for breaking the ice.
  11. How do you spend your holidays? Do they spend them alone, with friends and coworkers, or with family? How a person spends their holiday says a lot about them.
  12. Are you close to your parents? Tread carefully with this question because not everyone has a good relationship with their parents. Don’t push it if they don’t want to talk.
  13. What did you do during the summer when you were a kid? This is a safe and fun topic that can spark endless conversations.
  14. What is the stupidest thing you’ve ever done? Be prepared for cringe worthy stories.
  15. Do you have any siblings? Sometimes people love to talk about their family, so be ready to listen if your partner has lots of siblings!
  16. What is your favorite magazine? Subscriptions to a favorite magazine make great gift ideas!
  17. What is the greatest compliment you have ever received? People love talking about themselves, especially when they have accomplished something great.
  18. When was the last time you laughed until you cried? Laughter is indeed the best medicine; as are stories of remember laughs.
  19. Do you have any degrees? College is a great accomplishment for some people, especially those who are the first in their family to go to college.
  20. When is your birthday? Facebook birthday notifications are great and all, but no one likes running around finding a last minute gift!

20 Funny Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Funny Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. Who is your favorite super hero? Great question for nerdy couples, or people trying to become a little geekier.
  2. What toy from your childhood was really creepy? (Authors Note: I was terrified of my Teddy Ruxpin as a kid.)
  3. What mental illness would a psychologist diagnose you with? This can be fun, but tread carefully around people who have mental illnesses or those with family members who suffer.
  4. What movie scared you badly as a child? Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory was traumatizing to a lot of little kids. (That boat scene!)
  5. Would you ever want to work in a morgue? Random, slightly morbid, but it could spark some really interesting conversations?
  6. Is there anything you wouldn’t do for 10 million dollars? Instead of asking what they would do, find out the one thing they absolutely wouldn’t do for any amount of money.
  7. Who, from history, would you like to have dinner with? Edgar Allan Poe, Gandhi, George Washington or Rosa Parks, the possibilities are endless.
  8. What is your favorite candy? This is a great way to spark conversations and create gift ideas in the same sentence.
  9. What was your worst vacation ever? Jellyfish stings at the beach or a bear tearing through their tent in the woods? Vacations can be traumatizing sometimes!
  10. What is your favorite line from a movie? Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn. – Rhett Butler, Gone with the Wind.
  11. Who would star as you, if your life was made into a movie? Figuring out the cast of your biopic could make for an entertaining evening.
  12. What is your favorite Olympic event? Uneven parallel bars? Skiing? Take your pick and then have a discussion about it! Who knows, maybe you share the same favorite athlete?
  13. If you could only eat one food the rest of your life, what would it be? Get creative, and find some loopholes in the rule!
  14. If you could erase one thing from existence, what would it be? Personally, we’d erase online popup ads.
  15. What career did you want to have when you were in kindergarten? It’s amazing how much your priorities change as you grow up.
  16. Can you repair your own car? This isn’t limited to men.
  17. What is your favorite rainy day movie? Plan a date for your next rainy day!
  18. Do you prefer waking up to an alarm, or naturally? This is pretty self explanatory.
  19. What is your least favorite chore? While no one likes doing the dishes or folding laundry, there’s got to be one chore that your partner hates the most.
  20. Do you think you spend too much time on your cell phone? Silly question, because everyone denies it, but it’s always true.

20 Deep Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Deep Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. What is reality? This can spark really deep conversations that can last well into the night.
  2. Is chivalry dead? The idea of treating a woman with honor and respect may seem like it’s still a part of our society, but is it really still there?
  3. What is love? Is love something that can be defined or quantified, or is it something that exists only in the abstract?
  4. Is honor still important? Is the concept of honor still an important part of our society?
  5. Does free will actually exist? Are we actually free to make our own choices or are we influenced by society?
  6. Do you believe in fate or destiny? Do you believe in the idea that we are set on a path and there is nothing we can do to change that path?
  7. Who defines ethics? What is consider unethical and how can it be decided if humans themselves are inherently flawed and unethical?
  8. What is good and evil? Is it something that exists as a natural part of the world, or is it an entirely human construct?What is intelligence? Is it the ability to solve complex math equations or the skills to survive in an untamed wilderness?
  9. Should humans venture out into space? If we can’t even stop fighting amongst ourselves, do we deserve to move to another world?
  10. Are we alone in the universe? Is it arrogant of us to assume that we are the only intelligent life that has developed in the vastness of space?
  11. What defines sentience? Is it the ability to communicate, the intelligence of the creature, or something that cannot be explained or measured?
  12. Why are we here? Not here in this room, or in the world, but as a species, why are we here and why do we exist?
  13. What happens when you sleep? Not the scientific aspect, but the emotional and sometimes irrational things that happen when you sleep or dream.
  14. What is a soul? Is it something that can be measured and captured, like electronic signals in the brain, or something else entirely?
  15. Are we living in a computer simulation? This might sound silly, but a deep discussion about this question could leave you questioning your own existence.
  16. What is beauty? What defines the concept of beauty as we see it today?
  17. Does God exist? Tread carefully with this question around religious people. It can offer fantastic discussion opportunities, but people tend to take offense when their beliefs are questioned.
  18. Mind over matter. Everything was once a concept or an idea, but now it exists as matter. Which is more real then, the mind that created the matter, or the matter that was created by the mind?
  19. Does truth exist without evidence? Without proof of something, can it really be considered a truth?

20 Random Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Random Questions to Ask your Girlfriend or Boyfriend
  1. What do you think of ferrets? Ferrets can be great pets, but they can also be furry annoyances. It’s important to know where your partner stands on these furry friends.
  2. What is your favorite cheese? If they hate mozzarella, then pizza night is probably a bad idea. This is vitally important information, people!
  3. What is your favorite movie series to marathon? This can be a great idea for a date night – Or multiple dates if they pick the Harry Potter series or the Extended Lord of the Rings trilogy!
  4. Have you ever been bungee jumping? Dating a thrill seeker is great, unless you’re terrified of heights and they want to go sky diving next!
  5. How many hats do you have? This is an important question, especially if you like giving hats as gifts.
  6. Would you ever go on a reality TV show? This is just a fun silly conversation starter that you probably shouldn’t read too much into…unless they say Jersey Shore, in which case you should run away as fast as you can.
  7. What is your favorite accent? Do you adore the British accent or the Scottish brogue? Do they?
  8. Have you ever been on a slip n slide? This isn’t necessarily important, but everyone has at least one slip n slide injury story.
  9. When did you get your first home computer? Are they totally tech savvy or do they have trouble opening a web browser? This could make or break a relationship.
  10. What is your least favorite song? If you ever break up, play this song over and over on their voicemail.
  11. What is your favorite Pokémon? If they use any of them past about Gen 2, then they might be a little young for you.
  12. Have you ever milked a cow? Well, have you?
  13. Do you have a zombie apocalypse survival plan? Because, well, you never know when you might need one.
  14. Have you ever drawn on someone with sharpie for falling asleep at a party?Important information. That way you’ll know never to fall asleep around them.
  15. What time period would you want to live in, if you could go back in time? This could be entertaining, but it could also spark some really deep conversations.
  16. Do you like Jell-O? Not everyone does, it’s an important thing to know!
  17. How do you say the letter Z? Is it ‘zee’ like in the United States, or ‘zed’ like the rest of the world?
  18. Can you roll your R’s? This is an essential skill for speaking a lot of languages, like Spanish, as well as a very sexy skill.
  19. Do you believe in dragons? Do you think they ever existed at all?
  20. Have you ever been on an airplane? Self-explanatory.


While this isn’t quite 2000 questions for couples, these 160 questions to ask your girlfriend are definitely a good start! If you’re lacking for conversation starters, or just need something to help you break the ice on that blind date, then you’ve come to the right place.  IF you need good questions to ask your boyfriend, then give us a browse and you might want to check out the  eBook “2000 Questions for Couples” to help pick up the slack. Good luck and enjoy all of your new conversations!

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Disclaimer: You might want to ignore everything in the Random Question section, except, of course, for the zombie apocalypse action plan, because everyone needs one of those.

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